On the 4th May I turned 18! I am finally considered an adult, which is very strange to me. I was trying to figure out what I wanted to share this week for a blog post then a few weeks ago I had the idea of sharing 18 Things I’ve learnt in 18 years.
These are just things I have learnt personally and I may feel differently about these things in a few years but they will be nice to look back on.
18 Things I’ve learnt in 18 years…
1. Always follow your heart, not the crowd
Always do the things that you want to do rather than things people tell you you should do. This has been something that I have gone through in the past year or so with university applications etc. Everyone always tells you that university is always the option that you should go for at the end of school and no-one tells you that there are other options out there or that not going to university is also okay.
I have never really had the pull to want to go to university so I followed my heart and didn’t apply even though it is what people said I ‘should be doing’.
2. “Do more of what makes you happy”
I feel like it is always really important to always do the things that you love rather than things you feel like you should be doing.
I saw this quotation when Alfie Deyes aka PointlessBlog created this poster with it on and it has stuck with me ever since.
3. Don’t be afraid to like the things that you like
I have often been afraid of talking about the things that I like such as TV shows or films or things I like doing in case people judge me for it but I have learnt that it is okay to like things that other people don’t necessarily like – as long as they make you happy and you enjoy them then nothing else matters. I also feel like if you share the things you love then you will find people who love the same things as you.
My favourite TV shows are Glee, Shadowhunters, Riverdale, Once Upon A Time and Gossip Girl and I love watching YouTube.
4. When it comes to friends, Quality over Quantity
It is always more important to have a few really good friends than having lots of acquaintances. Your true friends will stick with you through anything!
5. Embrace your flaws and learn to love them
I have always been quite self conscious of my body and how I look and I have never been a very confident person but I have learnt over the years to embrace your body and your flaws and learn to love them as they make you know you are.
I used to be very self conscious of my freckles and red hair but now I absolutely love them and would never change them.
6. Wear whatever the heck you want to wear without fear of being judged
Again, I have always been very self conscious about my style and always worry about what people might think of me if I wear a certain thing but I have learnt that you should be able to express yourself and you should be able to wear what you want to wear without fear of being judged.
7. Appreciate the little things in life
There are always little things in life that we take for granted such as spending time with family and friends and you should always make the most of these times and enjoy them.
8. Make the most of the opportunities you have and always be grateful
9. Put down your phone and take in the moment rather than capturing it to show other people afterwards
I am always one for capturing a moment and taking photos when in different situations but I have learnt that, yes it is nice to take photos and capture the memories, but you should also put the camera down and experience the moment for real.
10. Spend as much time as you can with friends and family and show them what they mean to you
Always spend as much time with your friends and family as you can because you never know how long you will have with them and you never what to regret not spending more time with them when they are gone.
11. Don’t be afraid to ask for help
People tell you from a young age that you should try and work things out for yourself but I have learnt that there is nothing wrong with asking for help whether that is at school, at work or anywhere in life.
12. Embrace your mistakes, they make you who you are
There is nothing wrong with making mistakes, they make you who you are and you learn from them and can make you stronger.
13. It’s okay to cry and show your emotions
People always tell you when you are younger that crying isn’t a good thing and that it can make you seem weak/fragile but as I got older I realised that there is nothing wrong with crying or showing your emotions as everyone feels them at one point or the other, it’s what makes us human.
14. Don’t miss out on opportunities just because you are scared
I have anxiety so doing things out of my comfort zone can be really scary and really hard for me to do but I have learnt that even though something may seem really scary you should always try and do it anyway as you don’t know what you might be missing out on or how amazing an opportunity will be.
15. Find people who share a similar sense of humour as you
I find life is way more fun when you find friends to surround yourself with that share a similar sense of humour as you – my friends and I share the same sarcastic sense of humour and it is nice to know that you won’t offend anyone with your jokes 😂
16. Change isn’t easy
There may be changes that you go through in life and they aren’t always easy but it is good to embrace change and think to the future with positivity.
17. If you have a dream, go after it even if people don’t understand or accept it
My dream for the future would to be making a living out of blogging but I don’t share that with many people because I feel like they wouldn’t understand or would tell me it was stupid or unrealistic, but it is what I really want to achieve so I am going to work as hard as I can to try and make it happen.
If you go after your dreams and make them a reality you can go back to the people who told you you couldn’t do it and say you Proved. Them. Wrong.
18. It’s okay to spend time alone
Finally, I have learnt that it is okay to want to spend time alone with yourself.
I have always been the kind of person who would prefer to spend my Friday night at home in bed watching a film then going out to parties and I have learnt that that is okay and you don’t always have to do what everyone else is doing – if you prefer staying at home and spending time alone then that is okay.
I hope you enjoyed this post!
I can’t believe I am actually 18 and officially an adult 😬 Let me know if there are any lessons that you have learnt throughout your life that you think I should know.
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